People tend to remember the fun, exciting parts of their birthdays and forget the hard parts. But for some people, the whole idea of a birthday is depressing. Depression can be so severe that it’s debilitating. (And almost any birthday is a good cause for depression.) That doesn’t mean that people with birthday depression aren’t able to enjoy the day, though. Here are a few ways to help lighten the mood for those dealing with birthday depression.
Birthdays are a special enough occasion on their own, but when you add depression, those festivities can become even tougher. Birthday depression can start at any age, but it tends to hit teenagers and young adults the hardest. It’s not always clear why teens are more susceptible to birthday depression. Still, research suggests that it’s caused by a number of factors, such as social isolation, lack of motivation, lack of support, or sadness about losing youth.
Why are Birthdays so Hard?
Aging
Every parent’s worst nightmare is their child’s birthday party becoming a disaster. Whether it’s due to invitee no-shows, a poorly planned event, or an outright calamity, the last thing you want is your child to be sad because she didn’t get invited to a friend’s party. That’s why you must plan the party correctly from the very beginning. Set a date and send out the invitations as soon as possible. Then, plan the party accordingly.
Birthdays can remind us that we are aging another year. It’s the “official” day that we are one year older, even though we feel virtually the same the day before our birthday. And unfortunately, getting older isn’t exactly something to look forward to. A birthday is just another reminder that we’re not getting any younger.
High expectations
Birthday parties are supposed to be fun. Part of what makes a party fun is to have expectations of good times. Unfortunately, these expectations don’t happen all the time. Whether it’s the venue, the food or drink, or the decorations, there are bound to be some miss-steps along the way.
Lack of accomplishments
Birthdays are a time of celebration, and whether they are a milestone birthday or the first of another year, it’s an important day. But, for some, the day is stressful and filled with anxiety, and it’s hard to have fun when they feel so much pressure from the world.
If anxiety about an upcoming birthday is interfering with your ability to enjoy what should be a happy day, you might be suffering from any social anxiety disorder, a condition in which people experience intense anxiety about social situations. Common symptoms include excessive sweating, blushing, trembling, and feelings of fear or dread about attending parties.
Social pressure
Social pressure is all around us. It’s how we learn about our environment, learn how to interact with one another, and learn what’s appropriate behavior. It’s how we learn what “normal” behavior is. But when people use social pressure to bully or pressure others into certain actions, the effects are harmful.
Less excitement
Birthday parties are supposed to be fun and exciting, but lately, it seems some children are already gearing up as though the event is already over. The excitement of a birthday party seems to start when the child gets the invitation in the mail. Maybe they don’t quite understand how long the party will go on, but they know it’s something important, and they get excited about the event.
Birthday parties can be a lot of fun, and when you’re a kid, you look forward to them every year. But once you reach adulthood, your birthday celebration tends to lose some of its luster. Perhaps it’s because you’ve outgrown the games, the decorations, and the cake. Or perhaps it’s because you’re sick of being asked how old you are or what your favorite color is.
Milestone birthdays
Milestone birthdays mark a significant event in your life, and it’s a time to celebrate everything that’s happened so far. It’s also a time to contemplate the future and make changes accordingly. Here are some milestones that typically happen at different ages and how you can make this year a celebration to remember.
Milestone birthdays are big birthday events, and they should be celebrated accordingly. Even though, when it comes down to it, the average adult spends less than 10 minutes on their birthday, the birthday boy or girl deserves the absolute best birthday party. Whether that be a quiet dinner with friends, a raucous party with the entire family, or a luxurious spa day.
Less love
Birthdays are supposed to be filled with fun, fanfare, and lots and lots of love. Unfortunately, this isn’t always the case. Sometimes, it feels like more love goes out to the birthday person than to their family and friends. When this is the case, it can be upsetting, but there are ways to combat such a situation. Here are a few tips for giving and receiving love at a birthday party.
Birthdays can be painful. But that doesn’t mean you have to wallow in a pity party or eliminate birthdays entirely from your life. Instead, try some of these tips for celebrating a birthday with depression.